Saturday 31 December 2011

New Year's Resolutions? No Thanks!

I think people make mistakes when they create New Year's resolutions. They always seem to cause pain - what you want to give up, stop doing or begin to do. But in the best of faith, we make too many resolutions, overstretching ourselves to the max, all with good intentions of course. And then by February (or earlier) these new resolutions fall by the wayside, and we're back to where we were.
Resolutions cause pain, pain comes from resistance. Why is this the case? Inside ourselves we are actually struggling against something, against being the best we can be perhaps? (“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. " ~ Marianne Williamson)

I’ve decided not to do resolutions for the last few years now, and I’ve got that “need” out of my system. However I’m looking at the end of 2011 in a different way than I usually do and asking myself –“What energies do I want to invite into 2012?”, “What energies can I leave behind in 2011?”
Everything takes energy, and it takes energy to do this work too. Seth Godin calls it "The Dip" and he says "people that lean into the dip, seek out the dip, and do whatever they have to do to overcome it are the ones that excel in their work". “The Dip” according to Seth, is the difficult period that we have to get through before our path flows smoothly upwards and towards our goals.

I'm quite a private person - I've not really disclosed anything about my personal life in the year and a half I've been in private practice (and on Facebook!). But I'm going to today. Because I'm making this work real for me and it might help make it real for you, too.

So I face my Dip and ask the following questions:

What Do I Want To Leave Behind in 2011?
My tired, self-sabotaging energies, the old ones that don't let me reach my peak, the ones that keep me down in a space of self-depreciation.

What Do I Want To Invite Into 2012?
New, bubbly energies that say "It's ok to feel great", "It's good to be alive and at your peak performance"... Ones that say "Look how many more people you can help when you are fully awake, fully clear and in your Zone". Ones that say “step into your light and be the light that you are”.

That's all. No diets, no exercise regime, no pressure. Just a shift in my internal energy. The rest will sort itself out. Once I believe truly and deeply within, that I do deserve to feel good, to be at my best, that it is OK to be happy and in my peak zone, I will naturally want to look after myself better so that I can stay there. Eating the right food, going for walks, a yoga class or the gym will follow naturally because it feels right, not because these things are something I feel I have to be doing. And I anticipate that this change will be long-lasting.

Why not try it for yourself - instead of saying "I will go to the gym more often" or "I will give up sugar and flour" why not look at what you are resisting? What it is that you're afraid of? That's the hard part, that’s the Dip. And you don't have to do it today. (Phew!)  Even just deciding "That sounds like it might have something in it, perhaps I'll give that a go" could be enough to get a new process starting inside of you.
Have a wonderful New Year. Lots of love to you all, Abby

Have a wonderful New Year. I have a good feeling about 2012. If we made it this far, we're on the road to happiness already!

Friday 2 December 2011

We're in December Now

When my alarm went off this morning I was surprised that it was so dark. Over breakfast I told my two eldest children that we have to make every effort to stay in a good, positive frame of mind now that the amount of light in the day is reduced. I bought some music yesterday for that very reason, Mega 100 top dance hits of 2011. I will play it in the car, I have it on my iphone and I'll put it on in the kitchen and we'll dance. Rhianna, Britney Spears, Cheryl Cole, in fact even the X-Factor music is good because it's got positive vibrations through and through.


I've just put the new music on as I'm writing this, and it's already bringing my mood up. Dancing now as I write! Shaking off the negative and focussing on the fact that there is only one month of days shortening until the shortest day, December 21st, and then the days start to grow longer again.

What else can we do to bring more light into our lives during this time?

ANYTHING that makes life that little bit easier for us. We'll be setting the heating to automatic over the weekend so that it comes on at 6.30am and will warm the house for when our alarm goes off at 7.30. It's much easier to get out of the bed when the house is warm, and wonderful to have warm water to wash ourselves in. I give thanks that we can pay our bills and know that we may be luckier than some. But this small thing is something that some of you may also be able to do, to bring a more positive start to your day too.

Nice food - food you like that makes your body feel good. Good, hearty soups, hot drinks, spicy orange flavours to warm the heart and allow the heart to open and fill you with heart light. Hot drinks don't always have to be caffeine drinks, there are some amazing teas out there that feel just as good to drink - my current favourite is three ginger tea.

Exercise - I just joined a gym. My last gym membership finished two months ago and I decided I'd not need to join another gym, I can walk every day, and do yoga. I got a yoga app for my iphone and I've used it once. I've not even gone for one walk! So I know what I'm like, and I know I feel better when I have exercise. Rather than feel bad and punish myself for not doing what I said I would do, I say to myself “Ok, that obviously isn’t going to work, let’s go back to the gym!” So I'm going for my first gym visit today in two months and I'm looking forward to it. Do something you love, that works for you. And if it doesn’t work, don’t get angry. What do you LOVE to do? If you are a walker then go walking! A jogger, go jogging, a swimmer, go swimming. If you can't do Yoga without a class but love yoga, for the next two months, treat yourself to a class. You will feel so much better for it.

Have fun – watch movies that you love instead of ones you think you should watch. Stay away from heaviness in the media: switch off the radio if the adverts are wrecking your head or if it is all bad news, don’t watch the documentary on starving children in Africa or the latest state of the economy. Your watching won’t change the situation but it will change you. Stop posting stuff up on your wall or spending time reading articles about adversity and depression and start looking for positive articles to read. Spread those instead. Have a laugh, tell jokes, meet with people that you like and start asking yourself what makes you happy. If it’s do-able, then do it!

Release heavy energy - Do something for yourself to raise your energetic vibration. If you've never tried it, energy healing can sound daunting, but only because you've not experienced how amazing it can be. But for those of you who have had sessions in the past you know how good you feel afterwards. It's like peeling off a layer of tiredness, of exhaustion, and opening up your heart to feel and see the colours of life again. Do it!

The run up to Christmas can be fun for some, lots of food, parties, Christmas lights and of course, the holidays themselves. For some it’s not so much fun, family times are not always happy times depending on your circumstances. But for everyone, no matter how much love they have in their lives, the days after the holidays right up until mid-February can be really, really difficult.

It is so important to look after your health, and that means Mind Body and Spirit. Invest in yourselves. Wrap yourselves in whatever you need to, to look after you, the same way you would look after your child, your best friend, your dog. We need that.