Wednesday 29 December 2010

How to energetically burn away what no longer serves you

Today is the 29th of December and I woke up feeling - Yes. It is time to decide what to put in the fire. It is coming to the end of 2010 and it is a wonderful time to let go of the old, of what does not serve us, and embrace the new.

New Years resolutions are great, we say "Next year I will loose weight, I will be a nicer person, I will exercise more..." And we do. Until about mid-January or February! When we slip back into our old ways. So here's how to do it energetically. It lasts much longer, and we can do it again and again, we don't have to wait until the New Year to burn what we do not want to carry in our lives.

How to energetically burn what no longer serves you:

Focus in on something you no longer want in your energy body - it can be an emotion, it can be a behavioural pattern, it can be a stuck-ness. Feel how it feels to feel that - let it flood your body and lock into it. Really feel it strongly in yourself. Then, you can do either of these two things:

Place a stick right up to your lips and blow the feelings right out of your body and into the stick. Repeat it until you feel an energy shift.

Write it down on a piece of paper. Fold it up and blow the feelings right out of your body and into the paper. Repeat until you feel an energy shift.

You can burn the stick or the paper in a fire, preferably outside, and with it the energy you have extracted from your body will actually burn away. You can also light a candle, and burn the paper in it or in a tin bucket if you don't have access to an actual fire(this obviously won't work with the stick!).

While you are watching the paper/stick burn, it is time to invite in the new. Focus on what it is you would like instead of what you are letting go of. As the paper/stick burns, say to yourself "I am releasing xxxxx, which no longer serves me" And again blow out any remains of that feeling you have. Now say "I invite and welcome xxxxxx into my life"

So you could blow out anger and frustration into the stick, burn the stick, say "I am releasing my anger and frustration which no longer serves me. I invite and welcome love and joy into my life"

Try it out! And you can continue this process, long into the Springtime, with no fears of breaking any type of resolution at all. Nice! Have a wonderful New Year, wishing you all peace, love and joy for 2011.

Sunday 19 December 2010

Christmas Cheer or Christmas Fear?

There are only six sleeps until Christmas.....

I have been quite busy in the rush up to Christmas. I have had two brand new clients book me for next week and several of my regular clients have made bookings which will keep me working right up to Christmas eve. I know some of them are stressed out about shopping and cooking, some are stressed about buying presents or meeting their in-laws. Some are stressed because of drinking too much at a work party and saying/doing something they completely regret. Some are stressed because their loved ones have passed away at this time of year and the memories come back to haunt them. And some of them are panicked because they are going home to see their parents, brothers and sisters, and that brings up huge trauma for them.

What a strange time of year. A time of celebration and love turns into a time of stress, trauma and panic. Not just for some, but for many people.

I have come to discover that the majority of the issues that people panic over are about being judged by someone else. I truly understand that if you are bereaved during a Christmas time, there isn't much you can do about it only bear with it, feel the pain, honour it and your loved one and let it go as best you can. But the judgement thing you can work with. Most certainly you can work with that.

By placing a value on somebody else's judgement of you, makes their judgement powerful. If that person has constantly judged you all your life, based on your clothes, your hair, your job, what you say, how you walk, what you eat.... the thought of being around them takes your personal power away before you even begin.

But who gives them the power to do that to you? You might not like this answer. You do. You made a choice somewhere down the line, that this person was important, and what they say or think is important. And we have a natural tendency to look for approval, so that sometimes it feels like this person's ideas are more important than yours. So when they say something bad about you, you believe it. And feel bad. And get stressed.

Yes we do not choose our family, we choose our friends. But sometimes we have no choice but to be surrounded by family, by all types and all flavours of personalities. Some we get along with, some we cannot bear to be around. Particularly at this time of year, being with family can be a huge source of stress. So if it helps at all, realise that you do not need to make the choice to value other people's judgements of you. You do not have to accept it deep in your heart, and wear the badge of hurt. Consciously ask yourself "Am I walking blind and accepting someone else's judgement of me right now?" You can say "I choose to discard this judgement of me as it is unhelpful and hurtful."

To be able to filter out the judgements that you receive, you have to know your own heart. You have to be able to recognise when a judgement is coming at you, and where it is coming from. Perhaps an understanding behind the person making the judgement would help, or an understanding as to why you had been willing in the past to accept what this person says as the truth.

Once you know your heart, nothing that anyone else says about you matters that much anymore. If you find yourself stressed this Christmas, give yourself the best present of all. Pledge to yourself that you will get to know yourself that little bit better this coming year. That you will connect into your inner wisdom, connect into your own heart. Learn more about who you REALLY are. So that you can BE who you really are. And that is the key to letting joy and light in. Nobody can take that away from you. Not even a judgemental family.

Blessings for a warm, safe, and joy-filled Christmas break.

Sunday 5 December 2010

Time to Open our Vocabulary

This is day 8 of the snow in Ireland. We are not used to it, not one bit! In fact it has never snowed this side of Christmas for 17 years, and never recorded as being this cold since records began.

I heard once that the Eskimos have one hundred words for snow, and today the snow outside is definitly different than it was yesterday. I would describe it as a light, powdered snow that started melting and then was suddenly frozen, with a layer of crisp ice on top. So I looked up the Eskimo words to see if there was one word that I could use instead of 20, and I found this list. I particularly like number 7 and number 10, as they have one word that describes something that we would take several words to do.

1) Snowflake
qanuk 'snowflake'
qanir- 'to snow'
qanunge- 'to snow' [NUN]
qanugglir- 'to snow' [NUN]

(2) Frost
kaneq 'frost'
kaner- 'be frosty/frost sth.'

(3) Fine snow/rain particles
kanevvluk 'fine snow/rain particles
kanevcir- to get fine snow/rain particles

(4) Drifting particles
natquik 'drifting snow/etc'
natqu(v)igte- 'for snow/etc. to drift along ground'

(5) Clinging particles
nevluk 'clinging debris/
nevlugte- 'have clinging debris/...'lint/snow/dirt...'

(6) Fallen snow on the ground
aniu [NS] 'snow on ground'
aniu- [NS] 'get snow on ground'
apun [NS] 'snow on ground'
qanikcaq 'snow on ground'
qanikcir- 'get snow on ground'

(7) Soft, deep fallen snow on the ground
muruaneq 'soft deep snow'

(8) Crust on fallen snow
qetrar- [NSU] 'for snow to crust'
qerretrar- [NSU] 'for snow to crust'

(9) Fresh fallen snow on the ground
nutaryuk 'fresh snow' [HBC]

(10) Fallen snow floating on water
qanisqineq 'snow floating on water'

(11) Snow bank
qengaruk 'snow bank' [Y, HBC]

(12) Snow block
utvak 'snow carved in block'

(13) Snow cornice
navcaq [NSU] 'snow cornice, snow (formation) about to collapse'
navcite- 'get caught in an avalanche'

(14) Blizzard, snowstorm
pirta 'blizzard, snowstorm'
pircir- 'to blizzard'
pirtuk 'blizzard, snowstorm'

(15) Severe blizzard
cellallir-, cellarrlir- 'to snow heavily'
pir(e)t(e)pag- 'to blizzard severely'
pirrelvag- 'to blizzard severely'

So to describe the snow today outside my door I guess muraneq with qetrar (soft, deep fallen snow with a crust on top) although I am sure that my grammer leaves a lot to be desired.

Whats the point of all this you ask? Here goes - the observation bit.

When you wake up in the morning and someone asks you how you are what do you say? I'm ok, I'm good, I'm depressed... in fact just sticking with depressed, how many different moods are there within depressed that could be compared to the many different types of snow? Are you in a thick, heavy, black depressed mood, or are you feeling only slightly grey? I'm not being facetious here. In Ireland we have 500 cases of suicide a year and the majority of such deaths come from people who have depression. It is much more familiar than snow to us. And when we are depressed, do we feel like talking about it? Do we want to string together 20 or so words so that the person who is asking can get a real sense of what it is we are feeling? Or do we even have the energy to do that? So why no words for it?

I could go on about the lack of words for what type of happiness we may be feeling (to lighten the mood) or what type of anger. But I won't. It is time to open up the vocabulary that we have and come up with words or terms for things that DO exist. Things like depression which people have been hiding under the carpet. Hey folks, it's here, it's real and it's killing the nation. And yes, things like happiness too. But the reason why I feel that is not so urgent is because with happiness comes light, and with light comes energy, and with energy comes the ability, the desire, the motivation to share and to explain.

If someone felt heard by someone else, the urge to end it all might be alleviated for just a few hours longer. And if they felt heard and seen by someone else on a regular basis, perhaps the symptoms might alleviate a little bit. Just enough so that one morning, they wake up with a glimmer of a smile on their face, and a tiny bit of hope for the day.